Apr 30

Since my oldest daughter doesn’t go to daycare or preschool, I still wanted her to have some ongoing learning.  I want to give her the best chance for a strong start when she eventually goes to school.  I started scanning the internet and found that it has some wonderful things to offer.  There are many sites that have free, printable flash cards that can help your child learn.

I printed off flashcards of the alphabet, shapes, numbers, and animals.  I started going through the flash cards with my daughter and she loved it!  I sang a song as I did it (one of those made-up mommy songs).  “The more we learn about shapes, the easier it gets…and this shape is a ____?”.  She now often asks me for the flashcards.  She now knows all of her shapes, and many numbers.  Her animals she was already good at, but the alphabet will take some work.

Many educators love flashcards because of their repetition and review.  It really helps young and old to remember the content of what you are studying.  As the child gets older, you can customize your flash cards to whatever they need to study ( multiplication, science).

Flashcards were a great way for my daughter and I to do a fun activity together, but at the same time something educational.  Give it a try!

Apr 30

My oldest daughter had her latest speech therapy assessment yesterday.  If any of you have ever brought your child to one of these appointments, it can be very intimidating.  Many times the make you and your child sit down and play together on the floor, while the speech/language pathologist writes little notes about your interaction.

The last time we went, my husband was playing with her and I was nursing my baby.  I happened to glance over and the speech pathologists notes and she had written “difficult interaction”.  This really infuriated me because ofcourse it would be a difficult interaction.  You are told to play on demand, they hide behind a glass window as there is a microphone in the room to amplifiy what you say.  It is stressful for the parents also, because you have to use sentences that promote a sentence for a response, rather than a “yes” or “no”.  You feel a little like an experimental mouse in a cage, being told to run through a maze on demand.

Anyways, my daughter decided to talk up a storm yesterday.  She told elaborate stories of what she thought was happening in pictures and was not shy at all.  What a great relief as a mother to hear that she is “average”.  Heck, I will take it.  Considering that on her first speech assessment she was classified as “severely delayed” for her language expression.  She was at a 12-18 month level when she was over 2 years old.  Now she is between a 2 1/2 – 3 1/2 year old level.  I knew she had progressed well, but it is really nice to hear that validation from a healthcare professional.  You always feel like any fault your child has is your fault.  Mothers take on the weight of the world on their shoulders and need everything in their world to be “normal”.  What I have learned is that there is no “normal”; just some society’s standards for what “normal” should be.

Its hard to say what has made my daughter progress like she has.  Is it just that she was a little slower to progress?  Is it the the private speech therapy?  Is it interaction with other kids?  Is it that I now stay home?  Who knows?  All I know, is that I love the progression and want it to continue.

I am so proud of my little girl and love the fact that she can now verbalize what she wants/needs.  Maybe she couldn’t get a word in edge-wise between her father and myself.  We are  nonstop talkers.  For any mothers or fathers out there who are discouraged with their childs lack of progression in a certain area…..

REMEMBER, NO ONE CHILD IS THE SAME.  THEY ARE ALL INDIVIDUALS, AND PROGRESS AT DIFFERENT RATES.  If you have concerns about their development, be sure to consult with a healthcare professional.   

Apr 29

My oldest daughter, who is now 3 years old, will only drink warm milk.    If I try to give her cold milk, she gets very angry and yells for her “hot milk”. 

I am not really sure why she is like this.  Sometimes in the summer she will drink her milk cold, but it has to be very hot outside.  One thing I know about my daughter is that she is stubborn and does not like change.  At night I don’t fight her on the issue because I believe that warm milk helps soothe her to sleep.

I breastfed her exclusively for a year, so naturally my milk was always at room temperature.  Therefore,  I am not sure if she never really got the taste for cold milk.  Regardless, its time for her to acquire the taste.

I looked it up on the internet but I didn’t really find anything on a 3 year old insisting to drink only warm milk.  I only found things on kids refusing to drink milk. 

My appointment withthe pediatrician isn’t for another 2 weeks, so I will have to ask then.  However, in the meantime, if anybody has any comments they would like to share on this, please do.  I welcome any input you may have.

Apr 28

Today is a rainy day and instead of going anywhere, I just wanted to have a lazy day at home.  With my baby napping, it is now time to do something with my 3 year old. 

Making playdough is a fun thing to do with the two of us.  I like it better than commercial playdough, because you can make it much more “squishy”.  Also, with my recipe, it smells really good! 

You ask, why would you make playdough when you can buy it?  First of all, because you guarantee that its safe and nontoxic.  Second of all, it gives your child the independence and the confidence that they can make something.  Third, it can last for 2 months stored in an air tight container.  Four, you can make tonnes of the stuff.

The benefits of playdough for your child include tactile benefits.  Your child can experience different textures which stimulate their brain.  Also, playdough can also develop your child’s hand-eye coordination and fine motor skills.

Last of all, the most important reason you should think about making playdough with your child, because it promotes a wonderful bonding experience for the both of you.  Its something that both you and your child can do TOGETHER, so it is much more meaningful than buying it from a shelf.

Here is the playdough recipe I use.  Its pretty easy, so I love it.

Kool Aid Playdough

2pk Non-sweetened Kool-Aid

2 1/4 cup Flour

1/2 cup Salt

2 tsp cream of tartar

2cup of water; boiled

3tb Oil

Mix the Kool-Aid, Flour, Salt and Cream of Tartar together.  Add the boiled water and oil.  Knead.  If it appears sticky when it is halfway cooled down, add more flour if needed to reduce stickiness.  Just a little at a time because once it cools the stickiness will go away as well.  If too much flour is used, it will become too hard to play with.

Have Fun!!!!

Apr 23

When my oldest daughter was almost 2, I started to realize that she wasn’t progressing with her language skills like her friends were.    We started the process of getting her assessed by a Speech Pathologist in order to see if she required speech therapy.    They determined that she could benefit from the “First Words Program”.  Unfortunately, it takes a long time to get in.  It has been a full year, and she still hasn’t had therapy.  We decided to go the private route and pay for it ourselves.  That was beneficial, but you really have to be determined because its more work for the parents.  Unfortunately, I am a very sensitive person.  Anytime people make comments like “Boy, she isn’t talking much” or “Wow, you should try this” or “Maybe you aren’t stimulating her enough at home” etc; I go home and I cry my eyes out for about 2 hours.  I find as a mother, I take everything personally.  It is my full time job and I take pride in it.  So, when someone makes me feel like I am not doing a good job, it really hurts me.

Anyways, I have recently been researching this.  My pediatrician told me its not my fault.  In fact, he even had a child with speech delay.  I bring her to play groups, gymnastics, literacy programs everyday to stimulate her brain.  Some of my friends never went to playgroups or anything and their children talk circles around mine.  So then I ask, why is this?

I was doing some research about pregnancy complications linked to speech delay.  I came across some clinical studies that talked about how babies born to mothers with gestational diabetes were more likely to have speech delays.  I thought this was very interesting.  I had gestational diabetes with both my pregnancies, but with my first daughter I was not managed properly.  My doctor brushed it off and didn’t send me for any diet counselling until I was 35 weeks pregnant.  I didn’t even get a glucoscan to check my sugars.  My second pregnancy, I had a different doctor and I was managed wonderfully. 

I would love it if anyone reading this that may have their own story to share about this subject, PLEASE POST YOUR COMMENTS.  I am very interested in seeing how many people out there may be going through the same problem.  It is also helpful in knowing that we are all not alone.  Please, speak up!!!

Apr 22

I have started solid foods with my youngest daughter.  I started at about 5 1/2 months.  She was starting to feed every 1hour and 1/2 so I said enough!!!  Although you are supposed to technically wait until the baby reaches 6 months now, but every baby is individual.  Her doctor told me that she is the size of an 8 month baby so she may need it a little sooner.  When I had my first daughter, we were told we could start solids at 4 1/2 months if all of the criteria were there (she sits up in a high chair, holds her head up, follows food with her eyes, opens her mouth wide when she sees food coming, etc).  However, now they have research that says the longer the baby is strictly breastfed (6 months), these babies are supposed to have fewer incidence of illness.

After six months, the baby’s iron stores are depleted, and they need nutrition from elsewhere…not just the breastmilk or formula.  If you start feeding your baby too early, their digestive system may not be ready for solids, they may not be able to swallow or they may drink breastmilk/formula less often.  If you delay feeding, your baby may not get the nutrients they need, have difficulty learning to accept new foods/textures, have difficulty swallowing foods.

Always offer solid foods after nursing or giving formula.  It is meant to compliment breast milk or formula, not replace it for the first year.  Start with watery, semi-solid consistency and gradually use less liquid as your baby learns to eat it.

Start with an iron-fortified cereal such as rice, barley or oatmeal to give energy and iron.  Always give your baby vegetables first, then fruit, then meat.  If they get the fruit first, they may reject the taste of the vegetables because of the sweet taste of the fruit.

I have only done different cereals, as well as butternut squash, sweet potatoe and carrots.  I am going to move to the green vegetables this week.  Always remember to wait 3 days in between introducing a new food.  This is to monitor for a reaction.  Offer new foods in the morning or at lunch when the baby is less fussy and any problems will be seen in the day time.

To prevent allergies or food poisoning, DO NOT give egg white or honey until baby is one year old.  Also, it is recomended to stay away from nuts and shellfish until the age of 2.  Foods most likely to cause a food allergy are eggs, cow’s milk, peanuts, soy, wheat, or fish.

Common allergic reactions include diarrhea, vomitting, skin rash, difficulty breathing, nose itching, or cough.

I decided to write a different sort of blog today, one that was a little more educational, rather than a rant.  I hope it was helpful.  I know that when you have kids, its very hard to get the answers you need, and you don’t have time to read a big novel.  You need quick and easy answers, thats a “light read”.  Well, thats what I need, anyways.

REMEMBER TO ALWAYS CONSULT A HEALTHCARE PROVIDER WITH YOUR QUESTIONS.  This blog is mother to mother advice only, and may not represent what your healthcare provider might suggest.

Happy Eating!

Apr 14

So I am at the store again today with my baby strapped to me in her carrier.  Some strange lady comes up to me and starts talking to my baby.

Lady:  “Is it a boy?”

Me:  (Thinking, you idiot…she is wearing pink).  “No, a girl”.

Lady:  “How cute.  Is she your only one?”

Me.  “No.  I have a 3 year old also.”

Lady:  “Oh wow, how old are you?”

Me:  (Thinking, I hope she is thinking I am way too young for 2 kids, not way too old).  “I am 30″.

Lady:  “Do you think you will have more?”

Me:  (Thinking, God lady, I have a 6 month old and a toddler, do you think I am in a rush.  Also thinking, what business is it of yours?).  “Yes, I would love to have another.

Lady:  “You shouldn’t bring your baby in this store, there is bad air in here”….as she starts touching my baby girls face!!!!!!!

Me:  (Thinking, get your hands off my kid, god only knows where they have been).  “Okay, by then”.

Okay, first of all, why would anyone think it is okay to touch your baby’s face without permission, especially when they are a stranger.  And excuse me….bad air for my child???  Wouldn’t unknown germs from some strangers hands be more dangerous?

Some people really just take the cake.

Apr 12

I think the minute I had my first child I started experiencing guilt.  You know what I am talking about mommies.  You get those comments like “You should do this”, and your blood boils and you feel less of a mother.  Your child cries, and you feel guilty.  You leave them with someone so you can have a date night with your husband, you feel guilty.  You go back to work and leave them in daycare, you feel guilty.

You have another child, you feel guilty.  You are busy with the baby and your toddler wants you to play with them, you are busy and feel guilty.  You are trying to prepare dinner and your daughter says, “Play dolls with me”.  You obviously cannot at this moment, you feel guilty.  You are breastfeeding or emptying the dishwasher, or cooking, etc.  You wish you had more time to do everything.

Then daddy comes in like the white knight while you are finsihing dinner and your daughter says, “play with me daddy”.  Ofcourse, since he has just walked in the door he says “sure”.  Ofcourse daddy is the cream of the crop and you are the liver. 

I would just love one guilt-free day where I can feel like I am the perfect mom.  I would also just love to be able to do all the “fun” stuff like daddies do and have him deal with the chores.  That would be great!

Apr 12

When I am on maternity leave, I usually like to do something to stimulate my brain, besides toddler timeouts, goo goo ga ga, and tummy time.  This time, having 2 kids, I have taken a french course one evening a week to learn the language, since I live in a bilingual city.  A lot of doors are closed to you if you do not speak French.  Besides, I have a lot of french-speaking friends, and I would like to communicate to them and their children.  Especially since they want their children to speak predominantly french.

Well, let me just say that one week into the course I thought, “What the *&^% did I get myself into?”.  The baby refused to take a bottle, I am so darn tired by the evening I am not even thinking clearly, and homework?  You have got to be kidding, right?  How do I have time for homework?

The only chance I get to do homework is in the evening once the kiddies go to bed and by that time my brain is the consistency of swiss cheese.  Not to mention I had an oral presentation to do, in french.  Yikes!  I also have a final exam coming up worth at least 40% of my mark.  Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to cancel without losing money so I decided to stick with it.  I am actually glad that I did because I am understanding more, but it wasn’t easy.  Everytime I would call home, the baby would be crying and I would feel so guilty.  My poor husband, struggling with two kids at bedtime, the busiest time of the day.

All of this anguish really led me to think about moms that actually go to post secondary education when the have kids.  Not to mention the single moms that do this.  It leaves me to ask,  HOW THE HECK DO YOU DO IT?  No, really….HOW DO YOU?  I can’t imagine!  It totally made me realize I wouldn’t be able to do it, so I have to commend those mommies who get out there and do it because it is probably one of the hardest things you will ever do.  You are burning your candle at both ends to provide a better life for you and your children.  Standing ovation!

Apr 9

A great way to get things for your kids is through garage sales, local thrift stores, or consignment stores.  You can get great toys for margins of the price, as well as clothes.  When your kids are young, as long as you can disinfect the toys, they don’t know that they aren’t new.  So I say, why spend the extra money?  Same with the clothing.  Half the time they just stain it anyway.  I have gotten some great brand name bargains for $1 or less at garage sales or thrift stores.  Besides, once they are pre-teens they are going to want everything brand new and name brand so you might as well save your pennies now.

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